Yesterday I was browsing the Internet as many of us do for entertainment or just to satisfy our curiosity about things we did not even know we were curious about until we start surfing. I love cars and I am trying to figure out what my next car would be. Now my dream car is too expensive and aside from that car, I have not seen anything on the road that appeals to me. This was until yesterday when I saw a car on the Internet that had me drooling. It has everything I want in a car. Next my mind shifts to scenarios of how to make the financing work with my existing obligations. Does this sound familiar? You see something new that you did not realize would become a desire until you saw it for the first time. When we were kids these kinds of desires were usually satisfied by our parents. Adults on the other hand with existing financial obligations have to find a way to budget for the new item depending on the cost. What I have found to be extremely helpful is to go through a “cooling off” period. Most likely the item of your desire will still be available even if a little time passes before your prospective purchase. If you still desire this item, at least you can make an intellectual decision considering important factors instead of an emotional, impulsive decision. There are situations where your desire is a “once in a lifetime” opportunity. What do you do in a case like this? I would still employ a cooling off period but understand I have a shorter time window in which to make my decision. Certainly having less time to decide creates a little pressure so I ask myself an important question. “Is this desire consistent with the dreams and goals I have for my life?” That is to say, is this item going to support me or help get me closer to what I want to achieve long term? If the answer is no, then this desire is just a temporary distraction. Distractions are not necessarily bad; sometimes we indulge ourselves merely for pleasure. If the answer is yes however, now this desire can become an investment in your future. For me this is more pleasurable because you are enhancing the pathway to becoming a better person and this leads to even more happiness.
Now we must consider the case when we “miss the deadline.” The time expires and we have missed the opportunity because we had a limited time window in which to make our decision. What to do in this case? I missed the chance. That opportunity will not be available any more. This scenario can lead to disappointment or frustration. Such emotions are understandable but do not remain down in the dumps. First of all, ask yourself, “What do I want to achieve in my life?” Reflect on this and let it serve as a reminder of what the target is for your life. Keep your focus on where you want to go. If you did not get your desire this time, where you are right now in the absence of your desire is not the final destination of your life. If you remain true to the dreams and goals of your life, then what is forthcoming for you is the best of your life. Keep the faith and believe in yourself.
There is no such thing as a missed opportunity because the power of God makes anything possible. Now you may think, what if I pray to God and he does answer my prayer and I do not achieve my dream. “I could fail even without God’s help; if God does not respond to me, have I accomplished anything?” I invite you to take a new approach. Do not pray to God because you want something and when things are okay, God’s help is not even considered. Instead keep your focus on your dream and then partner with God in its attainment. I discuss this concept in my book, Success is Within You. “God, I want to win a gold medal in the Olympics, how do I achieve this?” “God, I want to start my own business, how do I achieve this dream?” As you set forth on the path toward your dreams, you want God all the time, not on an “as needed” basis. Partnering with God in achieving your dreams establishes a relationship over time so your faith grows stronger. You allow God to guide you and you will be less affected by bumps in the road along the way. Your eye is on the target and you and God will get to the destination of your dreams together.
Michael W. Jackson